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Anonymous User
1 month ago
Mom Guilt
How do you do it? Cope with the guilt of having to leave your baby with someone else while you go to work?
Anonymous
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1 month ago
Oh, I’ve definitely been there! Especially when we were first getting started with daycare in her infancy.
We’re really fortunate to have our kiddo at a loving, amazing daycare in our neighborhood, and it’s clear to me that taking her there means she gets to experience love and care from even more people. I really love that she (and we, as a family!) gets to be part of a community, that she experiences different styles of care than just what I’m learning, and now that she’s a toddler, she chats all night about how much she loves the staff and her friends there!
A big one for me is that I know I show up better for her as a mom (and for my partner and self, too) with the support of all those carers and with the mental switch of going to my job. Mat leave for me was sweet and priceless but sometimes stir crazy and pressured in its own way. Everyone is different, but knowing myself I personally know my mental health and my marriage would suffer different challenges if I were a SAHM.
Here in solidarity! Hang in there! There are so many reasons the world gives moms to feel guilty in general, and I hope you find some meaning or relief or enjoyment in your work and expanding your kid’s circle!
Anonymous
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1 month ago
It is hard. Don’t let anyone diminish the feelings you may have. I just try to change my way of thinking. I can see how much our daycare teachers love my daughter, and how different she interacts now that she actually has the opportunity to play with others around her age group. It will get easier with time, and then harder again when you hit certain phases. But keep your head up and be proud that you are working to support your family, and to provide them whatever they may need.