Looking back, what would you do differently?

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Anonymous User

9 months ago

I'm at the one month mark with my baby girl and I started thinking about all the mistakes I've already made as a mom. Just little things. And I’ve got 18 years to go! I’m not beating myself up about it but it made me think, what are some of the things more experienced parents regret doing? I know I'm just going to have to learn from the school of hard knocks but if anyone has any lessons to share, I'd greatly appreciate it!

Anonymous

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9 months ago

lol, I always have conflicting instincts 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous

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9 months ago

No advice, just solidarity! (And hopefully I'll get some good advice here too 👀) My daughter is almost 6 months and I totally get where you're coming from. BUT! Congrats on your new baby! One month in is soooo early, you're doing great!

Anonymous

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9 months ago

Awe! Thanks! By 6 months you definitely know so much more even if you take what I’ve learned and multiply it by 6 😬

Anonymous

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9 months ago

I’m sure you’re doing an awesome job! I’ve got super tactical advice and some philosophical advice. These things worked for me but every parent/baby is different so who knows if they are applicable to you so take everything with a grain of salt. Tactical: -Go on walks and mini adventures with your baby everyday. It can just be around the block or to a coffee shop. This will make you feel like a normal person. -When you meet a new parent and there’s even a little chemistry, ask for their number and don’t be afraid to text. Chances are they also want someone to talk with -Don’t use a bottle warmer - it creates a terrible dependency that you’ll need to break and it will be painful Philosophical -don’t beat yourself up using your phone in front of your child. This is more for babies when role modeling behavior isn’t as important. (I’m trying to use my phone less around my toddler because he’s so much more aware about what I’m doing than my baby) -travel with your baby/toddler: it can feel totally overwhelming (and it definitely can be) but more often than not you make amazing memories and the joy of experiencing new places (they can even be local) through your child’s eyes is profound -carve out time for yourself: you’ll go absolutely insane if you don’t do this!